The Going Back to Work Meeting

Tomorrow I have my “Going back to work meeting” with my manager. I am partly dreading it and partly in denial that I am almost on the road to going back to work. 9 months already? How? It feels like only last month I had newborn Baby Boy in my arms and we were discussing names in the hospital!

I don’t actually go back till January so I still have 3 months left but from what my manager implied I think he might suggest a gradual ramp up into work to ease me back in.

There’s a big part of me that doesn’t actually want to go back at all! I love spending my days with baby and watching his new skills and tricks. Equally though there is a big part of me that is craving some mental stimulation and adult company. The other big factor is, of course, an income!

Having whined discussed on and off (and on and off, and on and off) with the hubby (and friends, and family, and Twitter, and the neighbour…and anything else living) I’ve decided Part time is best and ideally home based or with very minimal travel. It’s a massive change from what I am used to. A year ago I was a total workaholic working 50+ hour weeks. I’d sit in the evenings and weekends and catch up or get ahead. I had a massive team and an important area to look after. I never once imagined that I would feel so different about going back to work. I really really (maybe naively) thought that I’d return to work after a year and carry on working relentlessly and building my career. Incidentally I’m one of those weirdos that isn’t that interested in climbing the career ladder, I just like to do my job very well, “go the extra mile” and hopefully get rewarded for it. And I did. My manager is absolutely amazing. Like I said to the hubby, I have no pride… I would follow him anywhere to work for him!

Now though? I just want to go to work, do my hours (arrrgh, I can’t believe I am saying that!), and run home to play with Baby Boy. I never want to work in the evenings anymore or on weekends. I really need to make a list of my desires for tomorrow because I know I’ll get in there and being the “yes” woman that I am, agree to everything. I am so nervous but I am hoping my fabulous manager will drop a very attractive package in my lap. Well, here’s hoping!


  1. Claire2101 September 27, 2011 / 4:36 pm

    Hope it goes well!

    • NotMyYearOff September 28, 2011 / 10:28 pm


  2. catparrott September 27, 2011 / 6:35 pm

    Good Luck! I’m going back just before Christmas. It has gone so quickly.

    • NotMyYearOff September 27, 2011 / 8:16 pm

      I know, I just can’t believe it!

  3. Averagemummy September 28, 2011 / 1:39 am

    Good luck! Your boss sounds amazing, going back gradually will be beneficial. Also Don’t forget your keep in touch days, you get paid for them. 2 and a bit years on I’m still going in doing my hours & rushing home, BUT i do love the real conversations about real grown up things!

  4. Mum2babyinsomniac September 28, 2011 / 8:10 am

    Good luck! Part-time would be perfect, I’m not working at the moment and I do live it but I think I would be a lot better with Iyla if I wasn’t with her every single day! x

  5. misslexywoo September 28, 2011 / 11:42 am

    I will be thinking of you and i hope you get the desired outcome, let us know how it goes xxx

    • NotMyYearOff September 28, 2011 / 10:30 pm

      Thanks Lexy. I was really nervous but thankfully it went well. Bit of a relief… Now I just need to go back (still scary!)

  6. Multiple Mummy September 28, 2011 / 11:56 am

    Oh i feel you you, as it it difficult but I think work and motherhood combined have their benefits too. I don’t know if your work offer it but there is such a thing as keeping in touch days when you can do the odd day and get paid in the lead up to work. x

  7. mothersalwaysright September 28, 2011 / 1:20 pm

    Good luck – I think lots of women don’t realise how much their priorities will change after they have a baby. I was exactly the same. I thought I’d want to return to my full time job because I loved it. Turned out I didn’t love it more than my baby and I now work freelance. This means some weeks I do work full time but others I just work from home. I never EVER thought I’d be doing this a year ago!

  8. helloitsgemma September 28, 2011 / 7:57 pm

    Be clear about what you want, never apologise for leaving on time, and let them know that from the beginning what your new boundaries are.
    The next generation matter – you are entitled to part time. It might be a shock for them but you are still the same fabulous worker – good luck X

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