What Would Little Z Do?

In the beginning (I mean, when Little Z was a baby), I realised I’d somehow developed the worry of what felt like a million mothers rolled into one. I went from being a fairly relaxed human being to become a hand wringing stress head that would worry to the extreme at every turn in his little life. Like leaving him for the first time whilst we travelled a 10 whole miles to a shopping centre, to spend time together as a couple. I did reasonably well. 3 hours and 3 calls is not bad for the first time you leave your baby in someone else’s hands.

Or like when he went through the first surge of separation anxiety (how many of these are there by the way? It seems there are multiple. Why?!). He spent about 2 weeks attached to my hip and wouldn’t go near any adult he hadn’t seen for over 24 hours. I know now that this was a phase. But at the time, my mad mother worrying logic calculated the following:

Baby is nervous around adults and also children, which means baby doesn’t like people, which means he isn’t going to have many friends, which means he’ll be by himself in the school playground and could be picked on and bullied.
Oh my God.

Cue making a mental note to enrol him into karate classes so at least he could defend himself when he got older.

I’m pleased to say I still haven’t enrolled him. And if I now do, it’ll be because I want him to enjoy a sporting activity rather than learn to beat other children up like some kind of mini Bruce Lee.

These days I am slightly less worried about Little Z and will gladly leave him at the grandparents and run like hell to the nearest restaurant or shopping centre (I am joking, obviously). I’ve accepted the mad mother high worry levels post baby are here to stay for, probably, forever but I know I’ve relaxed a bit and mostly have a grip on them. I realised this during a slightly surreal conversation with the OH over the blissful lazy Christmas and New Year holiday period.

Our conversation placed Little Z in various hypothetical situations that we’d either spotted on telly or seen in the news.

(I have to stress here, we hadn’t left the house for a few days and all thought processes were descending into the slightly bizarre)

Have you seen the secret of Crickley Hall? Its a supernatural drama about the deranged ghost of a headmaster. There is a scene in it where he actually leans over the sleeping face of a woman and whispers that the children are “mine” in such an eery way i nearly switched it off that instant.

This would just be a red rag to Little Z though. God forbid anyone utters the word “mine!” and he will instantly let you know who is the real owner of, well, the item in question is not important. It is ALWAYS his. The message is usually enforced with a full on tantrum and swift swipe of said item in question. That mansion wouldn’t need any kind of exorcism. It just needs a Little Z type toddler to go in and declare who is in possession of anything here. Oh, and that cane is his too, thank you very much.

Second scenario to be discussed was if an eagle attempted to swipe him away (after having watched a supposed real video of an eagle doing something similar in Canada).

Now Little Z is not as fat or heavy as the toddler in the video but we know he’d be fine as he would utilise his new found weapon of choice. Biting.
Where did this come from? And why am I the prime target. He seems to like doing it in the midst of being excited mainly, and will want to dig his teeth into my arm or leg, whichever happens to be in closest proximity. There’s been a few surprised screams on my part over the last week or so. At the moment he thinks it’s hilarious. That eagle would have no chance.

There were a couple more including the boring and important one that was too scary for me to acknowledge just yet. How will Little Z cope in nursery? I know I need to put his name down soon and I know it will be ok. He’s now fairly sociable and will either hover around shyly or, if he’s feeling brave, actually run to within someone else’s comfort zone and declare a big “Hello!” then grin expectedly.

So yes! I know worry less about some things (such as eagles/ wildlife/ ghostly apparitions swiping him away) and worry more about nurseries and letting him out into the big bad world. I think this is definitely progress.

12 Comments

  1. Helen January 5, 2013 / 11:29 am

    Love it. I went through exactly the same karate thought process too! And, no, neither child enrolled yet. ;-(

    • Notmyyearoff January 12, 2013 / 8:27 am

      That definitely makes me feel better. It seems lots of mums like the karate route!

  2. Sarah January 5, 2013 / 12:33 pm

    There’s always something new to worry about! I wish I could stop worrying, but I never do. Definitely best to focus on realistic scenarios rather than eagles though! Great post 🙂

    • Notmyyearoff January 12, 2013 / 8:27 am

      Hehe probably. Like choosing nurseries!

  3. Anya from Older Single Mum and The Healer January 5, 2013 / 8:56 pm

    He’ll always be the same and always be different! My two boys go to Karate – not to beat up other kids but to learn discipline and to have an air of confidence that means they won’t be beaten up! Our anxieties never go away – they just alter, sorry to say 😉

    • Notmyyearoff January 12, 2013 / 8:28 am

      I love how you say always the same and always different. It’s really spot on!

  4. Mum of One January 6, 2013 / 8:07 am

    I am a worrier too. I even invent stuff to worry about sometimes. Try not to worry about nursery. It will be great for him to have lots of other kids to play with and then there are the MILLIONS of new toys! My little boy loves it and I think it is great for their development. I hope that they will also be much more confident when starting school too. W bites, also when excited. We tell him off but I think/hope/pray it is something that they will naturally grow out of.

    Now stop stressing stress-head!

    Love stress-head x

    • Notmyyearoff January 6, 2013 / 12:38 pm

      Thanks!! I think we should make that our 2013 resolution! 🙂

  5. Erica Price January 6, 2013 / 9:29 am

    That’s the sort of thing I would do, but you seem to have a much more colourful imagination than me.

    • Notmyyearoff January 12, 2013 / 8:29 am

      I think it was from going slightly stir crazy in the house (at least I hope that’s what it was!)

  6. Susan Mann January 11, 2013 / 10:13 am

    I would so do that. I’m such a worrier. xx

    • Notmyyearoff January 12, 2013 / 8:30 am

      Me too. I don’t think it ever goes away does it?

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