As I turn “mid thirties” today I’ve realised that you kind of just mentally stop aging once you reach your twenties. You just become older and try to fluke and discover your way through life. In fact, they should just scrap the thirties and have you just go through the 20s all over again. So as I turn
35 25 today, these are some of the things I’ve learnt in my thirties..twenties..ok thirties..bah.
1. Your life plan becomes somewhat fuzzy. Growing up I wanted to be a teacher, a doctor, a nurse, a wife, a mum to 3, a bank worker, an internationally travelling business woman of some sort. I’m a wife, a mum to one and a nationally travelling woman of the IT sort. I’m not sure what should come next. I’m not too fussed either.
2. Your metabolism slows down. Really really slows down. In fact I think it’s just switched off. I’ve had to start exercising and eating in moderation. What the heck? Stoopid metabolism.
3. I will probably be completely grey by 40 if my current observations are anything to go by. As a teen I would dye my hair fantastic colours, desperate to get it looking anything but black. I am now desperate to get it looking just black.
4. I never saw myself living in a teeny tiny sleepy town and liking it. I was always going to be the girl that lived in the modern funky apartment on the doorstep of all the big brand shops and coffee places. I now live on a tiny street where the average age is about 50, my direct neighbours are in their 80s and a very lovely kind boy does the entire streets lawn and paper round. And I love it.
5. It took me to my thirties to realise how beautiful Yorkshire is. I’ve been driving through all the towns this summer on a little discovery of it all. When we sell our house it’s going to be described on right move as “on the cusp of the Yorkshire Dales”. We have no intention of moving though.
6. I probably will never stop wanting to achieve everything. I don’t think you can “have it all” and the balance between career, motherhood, personal aspirations is not really a balance at all. It’s a massive juggling act that is likely to last for another 10 years at least. It’s probably good to realise that. It’s also probably good to try anyway. Because you never know.
7. I need to see New York before I’m 40. I plan to runaway to it at 39 if there’s no sight of it before then. I need to latch on Las Vegas and maybe San Francisco onto that trip.
8. I used to think Far East Asia was pretty but not really for me. I was so wrong. It’s an amazing part of the world with a fantastic mix of traditional and modern. I’d love to go back one day.
9. It doesn’t matter where in the world your friends or family are. It really is a small world and the wonders of modern technology will keep you sniggering like a teen pretty much daily.
10. You really do stop caring what people think and just do what you like (mostly). Life really is too short. I’d shake the worrying 14 year old me if I had a time machine.