Pregnancy Diary – Weeks 19 and 20.

Pregnancy Diary Weeks 19 and 20

It feels like its been ages since I’ve done one of these. I need to become a bit more regular at it I think. You can read about my rage phase in weeks 16 and 17 right here. Thankfully the rage has gone away and its felt like I’ve had a few calm weeks, temper wise. We’ve spent the last few weeks busily trying to wrap up work and pack for our holiday, as well as fitting in a lot of naps from being so tired.

I was really relieved to find that the pelvic girdle pain had eased off a bit from the excruciating couple of weeks where I could barely walked and spent a few days sobbing from being fed up of it all. Its still painful, and some days really painful, but at least I can walk and drive again without wanting to cry. It does feel worse if I have a long busy day but I finally had a physio appointment and the exercises and advice the lovely lady gave to me seem to be working a bit. She also explained that a hormone called Relaxin is what loosens all the tendons and ligaments in pregnancy and I probably got a surge of it around the 18 week mark which is what caused the extreme pain. It sounds like it may have balanced out a bit and I’m hoping it does stay that way.

The hospital very kindly let us have our second scan at the 19 week mark as we were going to go off on holiday. We’d already decided that we didn’t want to know the gender and, like with little Z, it would be a surprise. I did spend the entire duration of the scan trying to still guess what it would be. It was playing a bit of a determined game of hiding away and crossing its legs though so it was hard to tell. Plus I don’t really know much about trying to decipher a sonograph. I was slightly worried I couldn’t feel the baby kicking by this time but the sonographer pointed out how active the baby was and she was right. It was booting my insides repeatedly all the time she was scanning it and waving its arms about quite a lot so that’s assured me that everything is well. At the end of the scan I asked the lady if she was, pointing out we still didn’t want to know. Apparently this hospital doesn’t the gender anymore unless specifically asked. Hmm, I still wondered whether she knew but that was that. Our surprise has been sealed. With Little Z I had a very strong instinct it was a boy but with baby number 2 I swing back and forth with different feelings.

Little Z has strangely been hugging my bump randomly and constantly greeting it with “Hello Penguin!”. I have no idea where he got that idea from but it went on for a couple of weeks and he was adamant there was a little penguin curled up in there. As he is a bit like a solid little hurricane with his hugs and slams into me quite a bit we ended up telling him there was a baby in there. He didn’t look quite as horrified this time but his eyes did widen as he quizzed me with:

Did you eat the baby

So we’re still kind of working on that but it is so sweet to now see him greet the baby rather than the penguin he was hoping for. When he doesn’t want a penguin he still asks for a boy so we keep pointing out its whatever we are given and reminding him he has a lot of fun with all his girl cousins too. He looks thoughtful for about a few seconds and, depending on his mood, accepts or rejects what we tell him.

The cravings has subsided slightly but I am still keeping Vimto very much in business and have restocked my sour sweet collection. I’ve also invested in some Corsodyl and probably should see a dentist soon. This pregnancy isn’t being too kind to my gums.

The baby did finally start kicking properly around the 20 week mark, on holiday! Obviously this baby must take after its mummy. So that’s 3 of us to gang up on the Other Half each year for all our dream destinations.

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  1. Mummy Tries May 20, 2015 / 5:50 am

    Oh bless him, soubds like Z is going to make a fab big bro! You’re going to be announcing your little surprise before we know it my lovely xx
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:04 pm

      It’s going by so quickly, I can’t believe I’m halfway!

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:05 pm

      Thanks Tarana, I think he’s looking forward to it. At least got a novelty period. I hope!

  2. Kirsten Toyne May 20, 2015 / 6:46 am

    Oh my goodness, I love that comment. Children say the greatest things. They are so open to any possibility. It probably seemed like the only explanation. Good luck with your pregnancy. I remember it being much more tiring second time round. May have had something to do with the incessantly talkative toddler!
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:06 pm

      Hehe we were a bit speechless when he said it and my other half couldn’t stop laughing!

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:06 pm

      Thanks Sarah. The Physio said it could be that the worst of it is over so here’s hoping she’s right!

  3. Alexandra @dontcallmestepmummy May 20, 2015 / 7:28 am

    aww how lovely! Really sweet that he thought there was a penguin in there, that made me chuckle. … and did you eat the baby? Children are so funny, it must seem so bizarre to them. He sounds such a character, how lovely of you growing a little sibling for him. Exciting you’ve kept it a surprise and yay for another holiday lover xxx thanks for sharing #sharewithme
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:07 pm

      I know it’s so amazing and baffling to see their imagination at work. I think I have him convinced now it’s not a penguin 😉

  4. The L's mUM May 20, 2015 / 7:30 am

    Aw bless your little one. so exciting reading your pregnancy diary, we are trying for our next baby and so it’s great reading and reminding myself of whats to come. I worry about how my two year old will react #sharewithme
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:08 pm

      Oh the best of luck 🙂 I hope it all goes well for you. Sending you best wishes x

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:08 pm

      They do, we couldn’t stop laughing when he said it but he was deadly serious!

  5. Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk) May 20, 2015 / 2:36 pm

    Everytime I read a pregnancy update I remember mine. Its such a great feeling to know that the baby is so active inside you. Penguin is such a lovely baby pet name. We call ours bean and we still use it on my son =) #sharewithme
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:09 pm

      I forgot how wriggly a baby can be inside. It’s very lovely though and this is probably our last so I’m trying to remember it all.

  6. Erica Price May 20, 2015 / 5:53 pm

    Good to hear that Penguin is doing well – you know that name is going to stick. Hope the pain stays away.
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:10 pm

      Hehe yep we’ve been calling it that for a couple of weeks now.

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:11 pm

      I am hoping he is going to want to be a good little helper 🙂

  7. Sara (@mumturnedmom) May 20, 2015 / 11:04 pm

    Oh, I love that, hello penguin! So sweet 🙂 He’s going to be a great big brother, although I do hope he’s not disappointed when he doesn’t get a penguin…! Hope you’re feeling okay, and not in too much pain x
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:12 pm

      We’re almost succeeding with convincing him that it’ll be a boy or a girl 🙂

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:12 pm

      Thank you, I think he’s quietly (and sometimes not so quietly) looking forward to it now.

  8. Joanne Dodd May 22, 2015 / 10:54 am

    Oh bless him “Mummy did you eat the baby?” I would love to know what goes on in little ones minds.
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:13 pm

      Hehe they are so funny aren’t they? I keep telling myself I should print his one liners off.

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:14 pm

      Ahh I think they’ll always be our babies won’t they?

  9. brummymummyof2 May 24, 2015 / 5:57 am

    Oh my gosh that is so funny! I used to eat so so so many sour sweets! And Katie Price did! Fun fact for you there. So happy for you. Lots of Love x
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:15 pm

      Hehe I had to really cut down after my teeth starting hurting!

  10. Rebecca U May 25, 2015 / 7:13 am

    That is the cutest – it is amazing seeing your eldest becoming a sibling #maternitymonday
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:15 pm

      We’re a bit worried about how he’ll take it all but we are hoping he’ll embrace it. Mostly!!

  11. Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap) May 25, 2015 / 7:44 am

    Glad you are getting a bit less pain. That must he quite horrible for you! ooh how exciting not finding out the gender too. We didn’t and it was a guessing game for weeks. It’s funny how your little ones thinks it is a penguin! haha xx
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:16 pm

      We are definitely playing the guessing game. I have a different feeling each week at the moment.

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:17 pm

      Thank you, it’s been much much better this week and I’m hoping it stays away. He now says “hello baby” so I hope that means he knows it’s not a penguin 🙂

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:18 pm

      Hehe that would be some achievement :D. He seems to have accepted it’s going to be human. For now.

  12. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) May 25, 2015 / 2:54 pm

    Aw what a lovely update and I love that Z called him/her a penguin to start with! So cute! Well if you are into guessing, I was alll about the sour sweets this pregnancy and my best friend was with her 1st, both were girls…. I don’t think it is that straightforward to be honest but fun guessing anyway 🙂 Thanks for linking with #MaternityMondays
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    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:19 pm

      So many people have said that to me. I have two more scans and I bet I’ll be scrutinising the screen 🙂

    • Notmyyearoff May 25, 2015 / 10:19 pm

      Thank you 🙂 I’m hoping the pain stays away for the second half of the pregnancy x

  13. Jenny May 26, 2015 / 1:40 pm

    OH Z is too funny. Always coming out with the funniest things. Makes me think I need to get back into writing my funny phrases from B I have been slacking. lol Toddlers are like little comedians aren’t they. Love update. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. Hope to see you again tomorrow. #sharewithme
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  14. Coombemill May 27, 2015 / 1:17 am

    I’m glad you have had those reassuring 20 week kicks now, I remember thinking it all felt so real when that happened, the first real bond. #MagicMoments
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