Surviving the first week of school

  

I hadn’t really anticipated what a hectic and draining week the first week of school would be.   Little Z was very very excited and I was very very nervous.  We didn’t know anyone at all there and we’d both be starting from scratch.  Would he have a last minute wobble and suddenly shout to go home? Would *I* have a last minute wobble and suddenly shout to go home?   Too much change too soon and how on earth had this come round so so quickly? 

To my complete and utter relief Little Z absolutely loved it and I relaxed a lot as the week went on.  It started as a couple of hours on Monday and built up hour by hour until he did his first full day on Friday.  It turned out to be such a great way to do it and I think it’s really helped him settle in.   The school has also had little things to involve all the parents and it’s helped us settle in too.  It’s weird having to make friends with adults just because your children want to be friends.  I really really am not a natural at doing that.  There’s also been a lot of swift sharp lessons learned very quickly.  Not quite a baptism of fire but enough to whip a naive adult into a “school parent”.   

These are the things I learnt over the last few days and how to basically survive the first week of school. 

1.   Do not try to park in the tiny car park meant for school parents and definitely do not sneak into the staff car park because you saw a couple of others do it.   You will get blocked in by another parent who thinks its ok to block you in for over 15 minutes as they’ll let their kids play in the playground.  You’ll take it quite well.  The other parent blocked in takes it quite a bit less well.

2.  The teachers are absolutely lovely and will make every effort to include you in everything.  There will be a mini quiz each morning.  You’ll love it, at first.  Your son will want to wander off towards the play area.

3.  Even in your mid 30s seeing or even talking to the headmaster makes you slightly nervous.  Little Z comes across a lot more fearless, proclaiming “we keep seeing that man everywhere!”. Shhhhh!! 

4.  Having school dinners after 20 odd years is very strange.  The menu has changed quite a lot.   The dinner ladies, on the other hand, evidently still all graduate from the school of “cut your vegetables up” and “try to finish your plate dear”. 

5.  Little Z thinks any grassy knoll requires him to roll down it.  Mud is now attached to every uniform piece of clothing  he has, constantly.  We now have many more pairs of school trousers.  

6.  The school is not lying when they tell parents to check the book bag every night.  I’ve already spent many a panicked morning in the car filling in yet another form or questionnaire to hand in promptly. 

7.  Kids make friends very easily.  Adults less so.  I haven’t made any friends or acquaintances yet and I, err, am not in any rush.

8.  Parents love any compliment about their child, even generic ones.  Please keep them coming.

By Friday afternoon I think it’s fair to say we were both very ready for the weekend.  I keep wondering whether Little Zs wobble will come over the next couple of weeks once he realises he has to go in every day whether he wants to or not.  For now though it’s very lovely to see him run off in a big rush to start his day.

  

30 Comments

  1. Boo Roo and Tigger Too September 14, 2015 / 12:25 pm

    I’m nodding in agreement with many of your points – especially chatting to the headmaster, it always worries me when they say ‘oh you’re Roo’s mum’, a state of panic comes over me and makes me worry about what she has done.
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:53 am

      Ha yes. He seems to take a big interest in everything too so spends a lot of time in each year. He seems good tbh but just a bit daunting 🙂
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  2. Charlotte September 14, 2015 / 12:35 pm

    glad he had a good week and went off happily this morning! I was dreading today thinking that the novelty would have worn off but Bob seemed happy to go. Not sure how she’ll feel towards the end of the week with it being her first full week. Hope you are well! Thinking of you as your next milestone approaches! We don’t do things by halves! 🙂 xx
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:54 am

      Great news about Bob, it’s so worrying isn’t it? And such a relief when they like it. Z loves going but tries to negotiate lie ins and days off now!
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  3. Sarah MumofThree World September 14, 2015 / 1:52 pm

    Glad it’s going well and what a good way to ease them in – an extra hour each day gets the settling in sorted pretty quickly, but at a pace the kids can manage.
    Like you, I’ve never been great at the ‘make friends with adults because your kids are friends’ thing. I’ve made a few friends that way, but it’s taken time. No doubt you’ll have instant friends when they all want to see how cute your baby is.
    Surely when it comes to parking, you just need to flash your bump and you can get anywhere and do anything?!
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:56 am

      Ha you would bump flashing would get me anywhere but alas, now that baby is here I’ll have to park like normal humans. A mile away probably!
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  4. Kim Carberry September 14, 2015 / 2:21 pm

    It sounds like you’ve both been having a great time and Little Z has settled in really well!
    Yep there’s a grassy hill at my youngest girls school too which she has to roll down every day….lol
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:56 am

      There must be some kind of grassy hill radar inbuilt into them I reckon!
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:57 am

      Haha I think I actually remember the grassy hil at my own nursery and then repeatedly rolling down it!
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 7:58 am

      Thanks Jane, So strange having to go back to the playground!
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  5. Erica Price September 14, 2015 / 5:32 pm

    Glad he’s loving it. It’s amazing how much schools sneak into that book bag.
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:02 am

      I’ve now started checking it each night and typically there is nothing!
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  6. Carie September 15, 2015 / 7:13 pm

    Aww that’s really lovely that you’ve both had such a great week, and such a good idea to involve the parents so they start to make friends. But yes, exhausting isn’t it, and this is just the first week – we’ll all be worn out by half term!
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:03 am

      We’ve already had negotiation attempts from him. Not too long till half term but think he could do with it!
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  7. Louise September 15, 2015 / 7:43 pm

    So glad that Little Z is enjoying being at school and that his first week went so well. I can imagine that speaking to the headmaster is still nerve-wracking even as a parent! 🙂
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:03 am

      He’s lovely but it’s a strange thing going back to school again.
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:04 am

      I did abstain but it looks like it’s all fruit now instead of any type of cake and custard!
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  8. Nikki Thomas September 15, 2015 / 9:03 pm

    Oh I’m so glad it has gone well and yes I was nodding my head through that list, especially the car park one, that one is very important .. and the headteacher one, I still feel like a child when I am talking to ours.
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:05 am

      The other half and I are forever talking about where to park. It’s horrendous. I think they need a multi storey one the amount of parents trying to get in!
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  9. Emma T September 15, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    Love this post. A couple of points really made me chuckle.

    The one about the head….at N’s, it’s a female head – she’s very peppy, and N quite impressively has remembered her name from the beginning (I’m astounded!).

    And mud. Well, we’ve not had much mud. Just A LOT of water. N likes the water pump/siphon equipment in the undercover bit of the playground. Today he got soaked, from water play and/or rain. Luckily he remembered the spare set of clothes in his PE bag.

    So far N doesn’t seem to have made any new friends, he’s just played with his best friend from nursery, even the other old friends seem to have been avoided. I’m hoping he does start mixing a bit more with the other children as well. I don’t want the 2 of them being reliant on each other, especially if they then get split up next year for year 1.

    Glad Z’s enjoying it
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:07 am

      We have a similar thing in that z has made a couple of new friends but only ever plays with them. I keep encouraging him to make other friends too. Hoping he does eventually expand his circle a bit!
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  10. brummymummyof2 September 16, 2015 / 6:12 pm

    Ah glad he is settling in lovely. My girl is loving it so far but I’ve not made any chum yet!!! I have been doing the very polite head nod at people. Ha ha. And that’s about it!!! xxx
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:08 am

      Haha I like the polite head nod. I’ve stopped doing school runs for now for a few weeks. My husband is making friends with everyone. Typical!
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  11. Sara | mumturnedmom September 17, 2015 / 4:30 pm

    I’m so glad it went well, and I was nodding along at all the points you made 🙂 The endless forms are a nightmare, I have one left to do that should have been in days ago…!
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:08 am

      Argh we keep finding ourselves do this all the time. I think *think* we might be up to date now.
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  12. Michelle McNulty September 18, 2015 / 9:22 am

    Awh this rings so true to me this week. Lovely post. The headteacher comment made me giggle. I did that too, felt like I had been naughty!!xx
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    • Notmyyearoff September 23, 2015 / 8:09 am

      Thankfully we’ve not had to see him just yet. :)it’s like going back in time!
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