How to make friends on the school run


Having had Baby E around the time Little Z started school meant I’ve missed out on quite a few weeks of the school run. I’ve been pretty lucky with a lot of family helping for weeks and so I’ve only just got into it.

I felt a bit awkward stood about like the new girl in the playground wondering whether I should talk to the other parents or just keep my head down and pick up Z and run for it.   

I’ve been somewhat distracted by some of the very sights on my way, like the one above.  I’ve yet to pluck up the courage to get up close to it (and potentially trespass!) and take some more pretty shots.  I may brave it over the next couple of weeks and hope they don’t let any wild dogs loose.  I’ve also spent a bit of time taking those mandatory autumn leaf shots that everyone takes around this time of year.  Golden leaves on the ground, golden leaves on the trees, just pretty golden colours everywhere. I’ve not done the ankle level shot yet, my c section scar doesn’t let me bend down that far without wincing a bit.  I’ve spent the remainder of my time gazing a fair amount of time gazing at a fellow mums city jogger buggy that folds with ONE HAND.  Ooh it is nice.  I have no real memory of what the baby inside or the mum look like at all but the buggy is very very nice.  So it’s fair to say I haven’t really done much chit chat in the playground so didn’t know what the adults or the other children looked like.

Then last week I started doing the afternoon school runs.  The first day was a mini distaster as I tried to get the Quinny out and had a big wrestling match with it in broad daylight as I tried to figure out how to put it altogether.  After resisting temptations to kick it repeatedly I managed to cobble it together and do a grumpy frazzled but successful pick up.  5 minutes later there was more buggy rage as I tried to unsuccessfully collapse it and the urge to abandon it, albeit it for a millisecond, was pretty strong.  I was saved by a quick Google of “how to collapse a Quinny” with a bemused woman looking on.  Obviously I should have given it a bit of a practice at home but having used it for 2 whole years previously with Z I thought I had it down to a tee.  

The next day I attempted the sling. I’m not a natural baby wearer so the first time was more than a bit daunting as I tried to put a squirming E into it.  We did it though and E dozed off after a defiant cry of not wanting to be in it at all. 

I was suddenly surrounded by 3 other mums and one tiny smiley child, each congratulating me on the new baby and cooing over the sleeping little boy inside.  And it’s been the same every day since with even Zs dinner ladies wanting a regular peek.  I now know who owns which child Z plays with and who the very broody parents are. E is oblivious to the attention and enjoys the mini snooze before we pile back into the car. 

So that’s how you make friends on the school run. 

(Week 16 of Project 52 and linking up to Sunday Photo)

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  1. Kim Carberry November 7, 2015 / 7:24 pm

    hehehe! A great way to make new friends….The school run can be a bit daunting. It sounds like you’re doing great x
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  2. Nikki Thomas November 7, 2015 / 10:06 pm

    I so remember this feeling when I had A. We had been at the school for a few months though so it was a bit easier, but the whole pram thing is tricky, especially when you’re in a rush. I never took to baby wearing I’m afraid but it is easier on school runs, a couple of mums at A’s school do it and it makes so much sense. It sounds like you are settling into a routine which is great.
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  3. LauraCYMFT November 7, 2015 / 11:02 pm

    The playground can be daunting even as an adult so it is really lovely when you start chatting to other parents. Hope you get the hang of the buggy soon!

  4. John Adams November 8, 2015 / 6:40 am

    A stay at home dad such as myself faces some particular challenges socialising in the playground. I do, however, take your point. I should have borrowed someone else’s new born and walked into the playground wearing a carrier. Such an obvious idea. Why didn’t I think of it? Anyway, as for the house, maybe knock on the door and ask if you can take a pic? #MySundayphoto
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  5. Sarah MumofThree World November 8, 2015 / 7:15 am

    This put a big smile on my face! Having a baby is definitely a good way to make friends.
    Really hope you get that Quinny mastered soon, but it sounds like the sling could be the way forward now 🙂
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  6. Jenny Paulin November 8, 2015 / 7:38 am

    i have to say when i see a new baby on the school run it does help to start up a conversation. well done for braving it and the quinney- we had one with Burton and it was always tricky to put up and collapse. mind you the next buggy was no better lol x
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  7. Kara November 8, 2015 / 8:16 am

    I have learned that “how to collapse / assemble” a buggy the hard way too. Baby’s are the perfect ice breaker at school, glad you are up and about now too xx
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  8. Emma T November 8, 2015 / 11:56 am

    Lol, that’s one to do it! It certainly works in our school too as 2 of the reception mums have young babies too and always have the whole school there with them, including the head.
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  9. Nat Jones November 8, 2015 / 1:27 pm

    I’m dreading this!! I’ve got number 2 on the way and at the moment will only have to contend with the nursery run with Squidge! Sounds like you’ve got it sorted now though so thanks for giving me hope! 🙂
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  10. Sara | mumturnedmom November 8, 2015 / 9:12 pm

    I was pregnant for the first half of my eldest’s first year at school, and then had a newborn… It definitely gets people talking to you 🙂
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  11. Lisa@intotheglade November 8, 2015 / 9:31 pm

    Hehe!! This brought back memories of wrestling with my “transport system” 12 years ago, while panicking about making the school bell and wincing at my c section pulling – bless you, I hope you master it soon. There really is nothing like a newborn to start the conversation in the playground. That is a lovely place to pass each day too xx
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  12. HelpfulMum November 8, 2015 / 9:58 pm

    Definitely one of the easiest ways! Sounds like you are finding your feet there.

  13. chickenruby November 9, 2015 / 10:50 am

    glad to hear you are making friends on the school run. some of my closest friends have been made that way, despite our children no longer being friends as they’ve gone in different directions as adults
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  14. Charlotte November 9, 2015 / 12:29 pm

    I have also found that a new baby is a great way to meet people. 🙂 Glad you have got to grips with the sling now. xx
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  15. Hayley (@hayleyfromhome) November 9, 2015 / 1:41 pm

    Haha, this has made me laugh. Funnily enough I haven’t had any trouble making friends outside school as I have two parent magnets…I find I just have to smile and talk about twins and conversation comes easy enough! I bet you’ll have a lot more attention as little E gets older too!
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  16. Suzanne3ChildrenandIt November 11, 2015 / 11:42 am

    It’s definitely a juggling act going from 1 child to 2, isn’t it? Literally in this case! Well done on the baby wearing, I never got this one sussed. I’m glad you made some friends though – babies do that 🙂 x
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  17. sherry from sherrys pickings November 14, 2015 / 1:41 am

    i really like this photo. what a lovely building and how gorgeous it looks with the ivy growing all over it. sounds like you had a bit of fun on the school run:)
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  18. Erica Price November 14, 2015 / 7:00 pm

    A new baby is bound to get people talking to you. One of the mums of H’s classmates had a newborn when they started school – that child is now in Reception which doesn’t seem right.
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