On a recent lunch date with a lovely friend we decided it would be nice to drive into the depths of Yorkshire and visit a pretty little place in a pretty little hamlet. It was a place she’d discovered on her travels. It looked more than 500 years old, had a huge open fire and made those delicious home cooked meals that people were obviously travelling far and wide for. It also looks very popular with couples and groups in the week days. One of those couples were seated across from us and saw us arrive with a buggy and baby in tow.
They must have been late 60s and looked like they were staring for a brief while at us then discussing their observations with each other. They looked back over and observed some more, eyeing up the baby, the buggy and back to the baby. Uh oh. I hoped Baby E would behave himself. Of course he read my mind and started grizzling to be let out at once so he could have a good nosey at everything. Thankfully he was most pleased at escaping his car seat, his little head darting about like a meerkat. The couple looked over again. Arrrgh.
Eventually I caught the lady’s eye and she opened her mouth to say something. Uh oh, what could it be that had her starting at the baby so much? She opened her mouth and it all came out…
“We just can’t stop staring at your buggy! The things they can do these days. Those wheels and that car seat with the air bags!”
All this time they had been amazed by the advances in travel systems. They hadn’t been bothered or paranoid by the baby one bit! They commented on how good he was and we talked about how old he was, if he was good generally, friendly baby chit chat. Mr stare a lot briefly reminisced about parenting their own brood many years ago. They left with one last look at the baby and the travel system they were so fascinated by.
So, the moral of this mini story is that, more often than not, those you think that are judging you, aren’t judging you. Or your baby. In fact, sometimes they’re admiring something you never even thought would attract any attention. So enjoy the long overdue chat with your friend wholeheartedly, as well as your sticky toffee pudding with the hot caramel sauce.